I would just like to thank you for your help in getting that lying, cheating man out of my home and life.  I totally believed and meant the vows, “keep only unto him”, “for better or worse”, and “till death do us part” and would have stayed with him through a long and lonely life if you hadn’t stepped in and helped him leave our home.  I would never have cheated on him or looked for a better husband, or heaven forbid, launched out alone through life without your help.  Although I fought with all my might to keep him, after he really was gone, I discovered a wonderful person – Myself.  I was so busy trying to keep him from cheating on me, from putting me down, and trying to get a response from a cold, emotionless shell, that I was failing to develop as a person and let the cheerful, creative, joyful side of me find expression.

Yes, I regret that it was hard on our children to have their dad divorce them as well, but was he ever really with them anyway?  They have grown into fine young men, and our daughter is surviving, though she still searches for a ‘dad’ out there.  When he was in our home, our kids actually didn’t have much of a mother either, because I was so busy trying to be a wife, and failed to give myself to them as I should have.  I have loved them far more without the distraction and they are soooooo worth it.

God is faithful, and has brought beauty out of the ashes of our marriage.  Yes, I’m still alone and enjoying friendships, creative expression, daily work and still growing as an individual.  I’m happier that I have ever been, and joy surrounds me!   Happiness is so much fun!  Thank you with all my heart for setting me free from him.

I posted this on WordPress Blogsl a year ago.

This comment came in from my daughter August 21, 2015 at 5:55am

I not only am surviving but I’m existing too.  LOL  I think after 39 years of waiting and watching for him to come home to me, to remember he loved me, and that I was his “daddy’s girl”, his only girl (daughter, anyway) that I no longer care if he comes back to me, although my wanting him has been replaced with pity.  He’s missed 39 years.  Mr. T said it best “I pity the fool”.  Mom you are amazing.  You are so much more than he deserved, and… he’s stuck.  I used to think I looked like him, today I know I look and love like my mom. … love you mom.